Tending My Own Light

Root & Rising
Oct 30, 2025
5 min read

It’s funny how often I speak about self-care, intention, and balance—yet I’m the one who forgets to pause. I can help someone find their light, but when it comes to tending my own flame, I let it flicker low. I’ve realized that I’m great at preaching gentle growth, but not so great at practicing it. Maybe this is my reminder from the universe to turn some of that nurturing inward—to give myself the same compassion I so freely give to everyone else.

I know deep down that helping others is part of my purpose. It’s something my soul just knows how to do. I can feel when someone’s energy shifts, when they’re hurting, or when they need a gentle reminder to breathe. It feels natural to step in and hold space for them, to offer comfort, or to guide them back toward their own light.

But when it comes to myself, it’s different. I can tell someone else to rest, to release, to refill their cup—but somehow, I forget to do the same. I’ll speak about balance and self-love, yet catch myself running on empty. It’s as if I know the medicine but keep forgetting to take the dose.

Part of me thinks it’s because helping others feels sacred—it connects me to something bigger than myself. It’s my way of giving love, of living with intention. But I’m starting to realize that the universe isn’t asking me to only give—it’s also asking me to receive. Maybe part of my purpose isn’t just to help others heal, but to learn how to heal myself, too.

The more I sit with this, the more I understand that I can’t keep pouring from a half-empty cup and expect my light to stay steady. Even the most giving souls need refilling. Maybe that’s what this season of my life is about—learning to receive the same love I give so freely.

Putting myself first still feels uncomfortable. It feels unfamiliar, like stepping onto sacred ground I’ve never walked before. But I’m starting to see that caring for myself isn’t taking away from anyone else—it’s actually deepening what I have to offer. When my energy is grounded, when my spirit feels nourished, the love I give flows from a place of wholeness rather than depletion.

I’m learning that healing isn’t selfish. It’s an act of alignment. It’s the practice of honoring my own needs so that I can continue to show up with truth, warmth, and magic for others.

Maybe “putting myself first” doesn’t mean closing my heart—it means including myself in the circle of care I so lovingly hold for everyone else.

I’m realizing that the journey back to myself is part of the same path I’ve always been walking—it just winds inward for a while. Maybe this is what true balance looks like: giving, yes, but also receiving; helping, but also allowing myself to be helped; nurturing others while remembering that I, too, am worthy of nurture.

So, I’m choosing to start small. To listen when my body whispers for rest. To slow down without guilt. To speak to myself with the same kindness I offer to others. It’s a practice, and I know I won’t get it perfect—but I don’t think it’s meant to be perfect. I think it’s meant to be honest.

🌕 Tending to Your Own Light: A Self-Priority Ritual

This ritual is for the moments when you’ve given so much of yourself that your energy feels scattered or dim. It’s a gentle reminder that your light matters and that tending to yourself is a sacred act of balance and love.

🌿 You’ll Need:

A candle – pink for self-love, white for clarity, or green for balance and healing
A small bowl of water – to cleanse and renew your energy
A crystal (optional, but magical) – Rose Quartz for self-love, Unakite for balance, Lepidolite for calm & boundaries, or Clear Quartz for clarity
Herbs or essential oils (optional) – Rose, Chamomile, Lavender, or Thyme
A journal or small piece of paper and a pen
Optional: soft music, incense, or a cozy cup of tea

🌙 When to Perform

Waxing Moon: strengthen your ability to prioritize yourself
Waning Moon: release guilt, overextension, or people-pleasing energy(If lunar timing isn’t possible, any time you feel called works perfectly.)

🔮 Steps

Create Your Sacred Space
Light your candle and arrange your items. Take a few slow, grounding breaths and feel yourself arriving in the moment.
Call Your Energy Home
Close your eyes and say softly:
“All that I have given, I call back to me. All that is mine, return gently and with peace.”Visualize your energy returning to your heart, weaving together like threads of light.
Cleanse and Release
Dip your fingers in the water and touch your pulse points or crystal. Imagine stress, exhaustion, and guilt melting away. Whisper:
“I release the need to give at my own expense. I choose balance. I choose me.”
Set Your Intention
On your paper, write one sentence starting with: “I am ready to…”Examples:
- “I am ready to honor my needs without guilt.”
- “I am ready to fill my own cup first.”
- “I am ready to love myself as deeply as I love others.”Fold the paper and place your crystal on top as a symbol of your promise.
Sit with Your Light
Gaze softly at your candle flame. Imagine it glowing inside your chest, steady and bright. Let yourself receive warmth, peace, and presence. Stay as long as it feels right.
Close Your Ritual
Thank your guides, the elements, or your own spirit for showing up. Blow out the candle, letting the smoke carry your intention outward. Keep your crystal nearby for the next few days as a gentle reminder.

☕ Aftercare & Everyday Magic

Brew a cup of tea to nourish yourself. Not everyone has specialty herbs—any warm tea works beautifully.
- Black or Green Tea – grounding and warming; add lemon or honey if you like
- Chamomile or Peppermint Tea Bags – calming and soothing
- Ginger Tea – warming and energizing
- Lemon + Honey in Hot Water – simple and uplifting
Journal your reflections:
- How did it feel to choose yourself today?
- What did this ritual reveal to you?
Keep your crystal nearby to remember your promise to yourself.
Repeat the ritual whenever you feel drained or disconnected.

Rooted, curious, and learning every step.

Blessed Be,

Bobbi Ann

Taking care of yourself doesn’t have to be complicated. That’s why I made a three-page free download called Tending to Your Own Light. It’s filled with gentle guidance, simple ritual steps, and journaling prompts to help you: