Lost in the Loop: Finding My Way Back to Friendship

It feels strange to admit this, but… I haven’t really done much to find my people.

Not lately, anyway.

I’ve written. I’ve shared here. I’ve posted some thoughts on Facebook and whispered wishes into the wind, hoping someone would read my words and say, “Me too.”

But beyond that? I’ve felt… stuck.

I think I’ve been out of the loop of friendship for so long that I honestly don’t know how to start again. I don’t know how to keep in touch. I don’t know what to say without overthinking. I miss companionship more than I can express—but even with all that longing, I’ve felt frozen.

And maybe you’ve felt this too.

Maybe you’ve been waiting for someone to reach out to you.

Maybe you’ve been hoping that simply being yourself would be enough to attract the kindred souls you crave.

I think it is enough.

But I also think we sometimes need a little nudge, a little roadmap, a little courage to step forward even when it feels messy.

A Tiny How-To for Reconnecting (For Me & Maybe You)

I’m not an expert on friendship—but I know what my heart needs. So here’s what I’m gently reminding myself to try:

🫖 1. Reach out with softness.

Send one message. One check-in. One “hey, I thought of you today.” It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be honest.

🌿 2. Be brave enough to go first.

Don’t wait for the perfect friend to appear—be the kind of friend you wish for. Start the conversation. Invite someone in.

💌 3. Keep a tiny friendship list.

A notebook or note in your phone where you write down people you’d like to connect with. Check in every so often—send a message, a meme, a “just thinking of you.”

🕯️ 4. Make space.

Sometimes we need to clear emotional space before connection can bloom. Are there old stories, hurts, or expectations you’re ready to gently let go of?

🌙 5. Create gentle rituals for connection.

Host a virtual tea circle. Post a weekly “friendship check-in” on social media. Light a candle and send love to your people, even if you haven’t met them yet.

For You, My Quiet Tribe

If you’re reading this and feel the same ache I do…Would you be brave and leave a little comment?

Tell me:

💛 What does friendship feel like in your life right now?

🌼 What do you long for in your circle of people?

🫖 What’s one small thing you might do this week to invite connection in?

Whether you're quietly watching or ready to share—I’m grateful you’re here. Truly. Let’s build this slowly, sweetly, and together.

We don’t have to have it all figured out. We just have to begin.

Blessed Be,

Bobbi Ann

Still showing up, even when I don’t know how.