To the Ones Who Carry Themselves Until They Can’t Anymore
- Root & Rising
- Nov 7
- 4 min read
There are moments when you reach the end of your rope, when you’ve tried every solution you can think of, and yet the world feels silent. Asking for help is never easy — for some of us, it feels almost impossible. And when no one responds, the hurt can be sharp, isolating, and infuriating. I want you to know something: you are not alone, and there are ways to hold yourself, protect your energy, and reclaim your power.
I don’t ask for help lightly. As a Virgo — or just as me — it’s not in my nature to reach out. I figure things out, I plan, I adapt, I cope. I hold myself together, and I bend in every way I can before I ever ask someone to step in.
“I don’t ask for help lightly…”
“And then… silence. Not one fucking person.”
But there comes a point. That point when you’ve tried everything you can think of, when your mind is spinning, your chest is tight, and you feel like you might actually break.
That’s when I finally ask.
And then… silence.
Not one response.
Not a single “I hear you.”
Not even the smallest acknowledgment that my voice reached someone.
You are not invisible. You are not too much. You are not alone.
It’s infuriating. It’s lonely. It makes me want to retreat from the world entirely, to live like a hermit in the woods and never deal with people again. And honestly? Some days, I feel like I wouldn’t mind that at all.
To Anyone Reading This: You Are Not Alone
If you’ve ever reached your breaking point and been met with nothing, I see you. I know the ache of feeling invisible when you’ve been carrying too much for too long. It’s not a weakness. It’s proof that you’ve been strong for far too long, and that your needs matter — even if no one else seems to think so.
Micro-Practices for Immediate Relief
1. The Grounding Breath
Close your eyes, inhale slowly for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, exhale for 6 counts.
Repeat 5–10 times.
Visualize your energy as a golden light wrapping around you, keeping you safe from neglect or dismissal.
2. The Protective Bubble
Imagine a sphere of soft, shimmering energy around you.
Any negative energy or indifference from others bounces off harmlessly.
Step into this bubble whenever you feel invisible or frustrated.
3. Quick Journaling Release
Write down everything that’s infuriating, painful, or lonely — no filter.
Tear the page up or burn it safely, symbolically releasing the frustration while keeping your power intact.
4. Affirm Your Voice
Say aloud: “My feelings are valid. My needs are real. I am worthy of support.”
Repeat as needed — it reconnects you to your truth even when others can’t.
Small Ritual for Emotional Protection & Self-Advocacy
What You’ll Need:
A white or black candle
A small piece of paper and a pen
Optional: a protective crystal (black tourmaline, obsidian, or clear quartz)
Steps:
Light the candle and focus on the flame. Visualize a warm, protective energy surrounding you.
On the paper, write down what support you truly need — the feelings you want validated, the help you hope for.
Hold the paper in your hands and say:
“I honor my needs. I claim my voice. I protect my heart from neglect. I am safe, I am seen, I am enough.”
Fold the paper and keep it somewhere sacred, or burn it safely as a symbolic release.
Close the ritual by holding your crystal (if using) and feeling grounded in your power.
This ritual is short, simple, and can be repeated whenever you feel ignored or overwhelmed.
Ways to Cope When Others Don’t Show Up
1. Find One Safe Person
Sometimes it isn’t family. Sometimes it isn’t who you’ve known for years. Sometimes it’s someone new, a therapist, or even an online community. Find one person who can truly witness you — even in small ways.
2. Allow Yourself to Feel
Cry, scream, write it down, hit a pillow, curse into the void. Let your anger and hurt have a place to exist. Feeling them is part of honoring your own needs.
3. Protect Your Energy
If someone can’t show up for you, they don’t get access to your energy when you’re at your breaking point. Withdraw without guilt. Set boundaries. You are allowed to protect yourself from people who can’t meet you where you are.
4. Ask for Help Early
This is hard — I know. But start practicing small asks before the world feels like it’s collapsing. Start learning how to be vulnerable before it becomes desperation.
5. Ground Yourself Spiritually
Light a candle. Say a protective incantation. Surround yourself with crystals or herbs that make you feel safe. Create a small ritual to reclaim your energy and remind yourself that you are enough, and you are supported by the universe, even if human support falters.
Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is protect your own heart.
I don’t have all the answers. I’m still learning how to hold myself when others won’t. But I am here. And if you are too — if you feel this same ache, know this:
You are not invisible. You are not too much. You are not alone.
🌿 Your Space to Be Seen 🌿
You’ve read my words — now it’s your turn. This is your safe corner to reflect, release, and reclaim your voice. No one’s judging. No one’s rushing you. Just you, your thoughts, and your power. Just write in the comments below. You can even be anonymous.
1. Quick Journaling Prompt
“I feel most unseen when…”
“If I could ask for help without fear, I would ask for…”
2. Share Your Micro-Practice
Which coping tool or ritual from this post are you going to try first? Or do you have your own way of protecting your energy? Share below!
3. Energy Check-In
Right now, I feel...
Frustrated
Invisible
Empowered
Grounded
You can vote for more than one answer.
Before you leave this page, take a deep breath, hold your hands over your heart, and say aloud: ‘I am seen. I am enough. I am supported, even if others cannot show up.’
Rooted, curious, and learning every step.
Blessed be, always.
Bobbi Ann🌿
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