✨ Becoming My Own Cheerleader

Self-love is something I’ve been learning slowly—like a language I was never taught but always longed to speak. And the truth is, sometimes it’s not easy to recognize when we aren’t loving ourselves.

We tend to think of self-love as bubble baths and kind affirmations (and sometimes it is)—but deep down, it’s also about how we treat ourselves when no one’s watching. It’s about how we show up (or don’t) for our own hearts.

🌿 Signs You Might Be Struggling with Self-Love

1. You don’t make time for yourself, and end up burnt out. You pour from an empty cup and wonder why you feel exhausted all the time.

2. You expect others to meet all your emotional needs. You feel disappointed when they can’t… but haven’t learned how to tend to yourself first.

3. You suppress your emotions. They eventually show up anyway—in the form of anger, bitterness, or envy.

4. You don’t push or challenge yourself. You let fear keep you small, even when your soul wants to grow.

5. You hold onto toxic or unfulfilling relationships. Because somewhere inside, you believe that’s all you deserve.

6. You believe you have to be perfect to be worthy. You never feel “enough,” no matter how much you do.

7. You abandon projects when they get hard. Deep down, you don’t believe in your ability to finish or succeed.

8. You don’t celebrate your wins—big or small. You move on quickly, or downplay them, like they don’t matter.

9. You stop caring about how you present yourself. Not in a vain way, but in a disconnected way—like you’re invisible even to yourself.

I’ve felt so many of these. And if you do too, I want you to know you’re not alone. The beautiful thing is… awareness is the first act of self-love. It’s the moment you pause and say:

“Wait. I deserve better from me.”

That’s where the healing begins.

It’s taken me time, but I’m learning to be my own cheerleader. To root for myself. To show up with love, not criticism. To treat my needs as worthy of care—not as inconveniences. To say “I’m proud of you” when I do something hard, even if no one else sees it.

Self-love isn’t a destination. It’s a practice. A quiet, gentle rebellion against the belief that we are not enough.

So today, I choose me. And I hope you’ll choose you, too.

🫶 Let’s Root Together

💌 I’d really love to hear from you: Which of these signs resonated with you the most? What's one small way you’ve shown love to yourself lately—or wish you could?

Share your heart in the comments below. Let’s hold space for one another and cheer each other on. Whether you’re beginning your self-love journey or somewhere deep in the messy middle… you’re welcome here.

We’re building something beautiful together—a cozy corner of the internet where we remind each other:🌿 You are already enough.🌕 You are worthy of love—especially your own.

With love,

Bobbi Ann

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